Daughters demand Rs.200,000 to take care of father

Terrence Monday, 19 September 2022 09:04 AM

To overcome the finances in old age the govt. should implement like in other countries where a National Insurance Card is in place for every citizen

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D P P Prasad Monday, 19 September 2022 09:22 AM

It is very pathetic. In the wake of sons and daughters wellbeing the parents are encountering the countless worries. Some fathers are toiling to feed their kids untill they are much old. Therefore it is prime duty of us to look after the our parents until their demise.

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Ratnayake Monday, 19 September 2022 09:29 AM

So much for proclaiming to be a Buddhist nation. Despicable human beings. In the meantime, the freeloading Buddhist monks are deaf and blind.

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Police OIC is decieving Monday, 19 September 2022 09:35 AM

No, the OIC is lying there is no duty of care towards the elderly or parents in the law. The daughters are being deceived by the police. The government should look after it's citizens, not foist them up to their family members.

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LAN Monday, 19 September 2022 10:20 AM

This is nothing but the copy cut of western social care system . This is what exactly happens in West.. children do not look after their parents as parents have enough saving to look after them by social care...Now this Western social care system had inflicted harm in the minds of Asian as well.. Traditionlly we have been looking after our parents till their death and it is a moral and religious duties as well ...yet what happens now is not acceptable at all

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Dee Monday, 19 September 2022 10:23 AM

The daughters must be doing pretty well in social media. Portraying an image that they just landed on earth and has no parents. That's today's life .

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Police OIC is decieving Monday, 19 September 2022 10:36 AM

@LAN The western system had women work away from home, far away well over a hundred years ago. If we have to have a modern society, then looking after parents is more a luxury which takes away time and money from the adult children to look after their own children. Any of that elderly couples daughters can claim too much fighting and disruption for life of their own children and which court will care about the elderly parents anymore. These days everyone is struggling with inflation, so the OIC really took the seven daughters for a ride. Shame on the police.

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Beggar Monday, 19 September 2022 11:25 AM

It is incredible that there are children in this world who are doing well in life but refuse to care for their parents in their old age ! They think the parents are now a burden to them and show no sympathy.

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Sammy Monday, 19 September 2022 11:46 AM

@Police OIC is deceiving Leave aside the law, in our ancient religious and cultural values charity and looking after the elderly especially the parents are ingrained. Human values over the law. If there were no such values, the world would be a worse place. When parents have sacrificed so much for their children, it is only humane that children look after them in their old age unless they are not able to due to certain circumstances in which case they should ensure that due care is provided to them in an Institution or Home. We are not beasts to abandon both children or elderly parents.

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Chamali Monday, 19 September 2022 12:01 PM

There is no law to say that elderly parents should be taken care of. There is a law for parents to take care of their young children though. In most families, taking care of parents is done more as a duty to avoid being pointed at for not looking after your parents. Government must have a solution to this. Anyway, nobody has the right to judge anyone on this. There are many parents who have caused a lot of problems in their children's married lives too. Sadly, this problem is going to escalate in the future.

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Commentator Monday, 19 September 2022 12:11 PM

Police OIC is decieving: S ocorrect me if I got it wrong... in your view it is the problem is to be cast on the state? Seems like a typical government benefit leech culture. It is partly this thinking that the government needs to hand out everything to it citizens that has put the country in the mess it currently is. I suppose people make comments here based on their individual values and beliefs.

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Fathima Lai Monday, 19 September 2022 12:18 PM

I have seen daughters-in-law do that often, but daughters are very rare. 08-05 work, wait for month-end to prepare next budget, car loan, house loan, credit card, school expenses, and parents are not even on the list. Today, urban Sri Lankans love to live a fake life full of show off.

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sam Monday, 19 September 2022 12:56 PM

What sort of daughters are these? who are unwilling to take care of elderly parents who brought them up?

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Police OIC is decieving Monday, 19 September 2022 01:07 PM

@Sammy There is no such things as human values, each culture has it's own. The West has democracy, and freedoms and part of that is not getting caught up with archaic traditions or religious guilt tripping. If Sri Lanka is to become a developed nation, these obligations towards our parents have to end. As well as having religion in the constitution. Unless we have gold and oil unlimited which we can get foreigner to extract from the land we will always be poor with these outdated obligations. Western country where person does not have land, or EPF money the state looks after. I am eldest look after my mother, but that's just me. My younger sister does not want anything to do with my mother, and that's her choice. I don't expect my sister to contribute anything towards my mother unless she has extra money to do so. Sri Lankan government employee get massive amount of printed money payments, so providing for our elderly who are destitute and without property is state obligation.

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Police OIC is decieving Monday, 19 September 2022 01:11 PM

@Commentator The elderly are voter, they must demand the government provide for them if they have no other means. Government is there for the citizen, not for state paid employee or the military. Providing for elderly voter must be made their obligation. Even IMF won't complain about money for those who can't work anymore. They may complain about number of state employee, expenses by parliament, or military size. They will not complain about providing for those in need, the poor family with children, or elderly who are abandoned because they are too costly or troublesome to look after anymore.

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Biso menike Monday, 19 September 2022 02:27 PM

I am shocked to read some of these comments, the Government and country is in such a mess even those who have the financial means cannot get their hands on basis needs to purchase for even a higher price and the bright idea that the Government must take care of its citizens is a utter joke. Parents bring their children into this material world, care for them through their stages in life, educate them and once we become adults get employment, marry and have our own families are expected to wash our hands off our parents who have cared and educated us to get to where we are!!!, this is inhuman and disgusting. Some who have commented fail to understand that Sri Lanka is a underdeveloped small island with majority of the masses struggling daily to put food on the table. When I was growing up we had several classes of people the mega rich, rich, upper middle class, middle class and the poor, but now it is sad to say we now have the haves and the have nots, the rich and the poor. Biso

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D Monday, 19 September 2022 02:45 PM

Children are not our collateral to take care of us at old age. I don't have any expectation but I want to work towards having some income at old age to take care of myself. Bad planning at worse... also sad in a country like Sri Lanka where there is NO plan for the care of elderly

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Wrong, Wrong wrong Monday, 19 September 2022 05:58 PM

This seems an impossible situation. Seven daughters, all of them reject their parents. Maybe some wrong doing happened against them when they were still girls, as hard to believe seven daughters all behave the same way in rejecting looking after their elderly parents.

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Kumar Monday, 19 September 2022 10:45 PM

I know of a young woman who looked after her disable mother who was abandoned by the rich brother and the mother-in-law who was blind, while teaching at a school during the day. She had home help during the day.

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Is it in the gene? Tuesday, 20 September 2022 11:40 AM

The children must have inherited the wealth and the gene from one of the parents - mother or father. In other words, the father is paying for the sin of low qualities he or his wife generously passed on to their children. Who can be blamed?

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