By Melanie Bamunusinghe
Women do it the most. They tend to look lost or confused in a situation that is not going their way. This makes the guy vulnerable (they interpret it as innocence; poor guy) and the next thing you know the girl has got what she wants!
‘Blond Moments’ are very common in relationships. These moments partner with charm and affection, making it harder to identify it.
If the guy makes an insensitive comment, about her or about the relationship, she puts on an innocently helpless face (I don’t know what you mean or I’m a bit hurt by what you said).
The guy feels guilty (or stupid that his girl didnt get his comment) and tries to make up with her and make her smile. The girl wins and that's how girls get to run the game.
Not always okay? Guys do it often too and their ‘Blond Moments’ are complex. It's usually when they forget to do something (pick up the laundry, bring home bread and non-fat milk, take the dog for a walk before dark) or they have been given a task extremely difficult that they have to forgo (“Dont invite Andrew for dinner on Friday, honey. He doesn’t know when to keep his mouth shut. If he asks you tell him that we don’t have space”)
These guys are smart. They know how to get around things they don’t want to to do or forget to and yet avoid a fight and assure the partner that all went well (how would he get dinner that night?)
If he forgot the laundry, play the ‘Had a bad day’ move. “The laundry guy couldn’t find our clothes and I was so tired sweety, to wait there till he found it. I had a bad day at office...” (yeah yeah)
Forgot to bring the Non-fat milk? “Baby, you look fine the way you are, you dont have to loose weight. I love you just the way you are. But if you dont, then I will go get a packet now,” Do you think the girl will say “Yeah! bring one now!” ? Hell no!
If he forgets to take the dog for a walk before dark all he will say is “Oh, I’m so sorry. I thought you said after dark. I was gonna take him out right after dinner!” and she “No you silly! I meant before." "Aww aren’t you confused! You are adorable you know that?"(okay, that's enough!)
So that how it happens. Girls often succumb to “Oh, I’m so sorry” (OISS) phrase when they spill the beans to their partner. “You told about my problem to Lathika?” OISS! I only wanted to get some advice...” “Now even Jamal knows. How embarrasing is that?” “I didn’t mean to. It was for us...” That's a punch in the heart and the guy melts. Game over, for now.
ABOUT, 'Being Blond '
• Its stupid, superficial and a cry for affection.
• Shows that you do not know the person enough. Be open.
• It's cheap and shallow
• Arguments are healthy
• Sort things out. If you dont agree, say it.
• Avoid confrontations. It’s always the safer option.
• Let it snowball. The girl deserves a slap in the end.